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Cyberbullying in BYSTANDER: An Excerpt

As I dug deeper into my research for Bystander, a bully-themed novel set in a middle school, I realized that I could write a hundred different stories on the subject. There are so many manifestations, so many different approaches to the issue, so many stories to tell. For my immediate purposes, I decided to focus primarily on boy characters. And for the most part, I did not address cyberbullying in a major way, though I fully realized it was a topic of vital importance for children today.

Just about every educator told me the same thing, in the same words: “Girls are worse.”

That’s why I made sure that one character in the book, Mary O’Malley, was directly touched by cyberbullying. She witnesses it, participates in it, feels uncomfortable with it, and is forced to make some difficult choices. In terms of character arc, Mary gradually moves from darkness into light. Or as she tells Eric late in the book, chapter 25 [misfits], while they sit together (and alone) in the lunch room:

“I’m done worrying about what people like Alexis Brown think of me.”

“When did you get so smart?” Eric asked.

Mary shrugged. “I had to do a lot of dumb things first. After a while, I decided to try a different approach.”

“How’s it working out for you so far?”

“The food’s better,” Mary said, twisting open one of Eric’s Oreos. She turned serious. “Do you know what Mr. Scofield told me? He said not to listen when people say bad things about me. He said, ‘You know, Miss O’Malley, it says more about who they are than it does about you.'”

Here’s an excerpt from an earlier scene in chapter 16 [Mary], when Mary is hanging out with Eric Hayes. They are together at a dog park with Ginger, a Golden Retriever:

It was Eric’s first time alone with Mary. Of course, not counting Ginger’s company. The dog somehow made it easier, gave them a third thing, something outside of themselves that they could share. Mary found an old tennis ball, hurled it across the field. Ginger took off like a rocket, proudly retrieving it. Just an animal, doing what came naturally. They played that game for a long while, Eric and Mary taking turns throwing the ball, Ginger tireless and impatient.

A few times Mary’s cell phone sounded. She’d flip it open, read a text message, flip it closed.

At a certain point she stopped talking.

“You’re frowning,” Eric noted. “Is something the matter?”

Mary shook her head. But a moment later she pulled out her cell, punched a few buttons, and handed it to Eric. “Here, look at this.”

There was a photograph of a girl’s thick body. She wore shorts and a midriff-baring shirt, with the head of a pig Photoshopped onto it. “Who’s that supposed to be?” Eric asked.

“That’s Chantel Williams, you know her?”

“Sort of, we’re in a couple of classes together.”

“Well, everybody is really mad at her –“

“Everybody?”

“Okay, not everybody,” Mary replied, conceding the point. “It’s mostly Chrissie and Alexis. They want me to come over, because they want to get her back.”

Eric didn’t know Chantel well. She seemed okay. “What did she do?”

“Flirted with the wrong guy, according to Alexis.” After a pause, Mary confessed, “I know, you don’t have to say anything. It’s all so stupid.”

“What are they going to do?”

Ginger dropped the ball at Eric’s feet, then plopped to the ground herself, exhausted. He picked the ball up and threw it. Ginger watched it sail through the air, but did not otherwise stir.

“Go on, go get it!” Eric urged.

Ginger rested her chin on the cool earth. She wasn’t going anywhere. The ball could stay lost forever.

It was time to go. Eric reattached Ginger’s leash and gave a tug. He reminded Mary that she still hadn’t answered his question.

Mary sighed, shrugged, rearranged a loose strand of hair. “Something mean,” she said, eyes narrowing. “They are talking about maybe some fake Web page. Alexis has a new iMac in her room. They want me to help. I’m good with computers.”

“You’ve done stuff like that before?”

Mary looked away, nodded. “A little bit.”

One last note about some of the things I was trying to achieve here. You read in the first excerpt the reference to Mr. Scofield, an English teacher. He is a minor but recurring presence in the book, an intelligent, capable teacher who senses what’s going on and tries, in a limited way, to council and assist. The line that Mary attributes to him — “You know, Miss O’Malley, it says more about who they are than it does about you” — came to me directly from a middle school English teacher, my friend Matt Ball. He told me that’s what he sometimes said to his students, if he saw they were having a tough time. I informed Matt that I was going to use it for the book I was writing. Matt told me to be his guest. So that’s how that little piece of advice got into Bystander.

File under: I’m not making this stuff up.


Bullies in the News: Feature Article on BYSTANDER

The news has been so sad, so disturbing, so upsetting lately. It’s as if the world has woken up and suddenly, wherever you look, there’s news and columns about bullies and victims and bystanders.

On that note, I was recently the subject of a feature article, “A Book for the Bullied,” written by Doug Gruse for the Glens Falls Post Star. Doug is a thoroughly professional, careful, thoughtful writer and I believe he did a great job with the piece. I tend to dread these things — the awkward quotes and mangled quotes and (to my mind) the often misplaced emphasis. But Doug did a great job. Very grateful for that. Here’s how it begins:

Most people outgrow their childhoods, but James Preller relives his almost every day.

Preller, best-known for his “Jigsaw Jones” children’s series, is an author who never underestimates young readers.

“I think from an outsiders’ point of view, people think kids’ books are light and fluffy — until they start reading them and see what’s out there,” Preller said.

The writer, who has published everything from picture books to young adult novels, will appear on April 15 at Barnes & Noble in Saratoga Springs.

His most recent book, “Bystander,” tells the story of a new kid in town who witnesses bullying at his middle school. Although bullies are not a new literary topic, Preller worked to approach the subject from a different and more honest perspective.

“I had the idea that evil has a pretty face. I wanted the bully to be verbally [skilled], charming and charismatic,” he said

The author, who lives in Delmar, made the story more complex than just a big kid at school muscling other students, and he didn’t want to give the book a Hollywood happy ending.
“This is not the revenge fantasy where all the nerds get together and teach the bully a lesson. I resisted the easy solutions because I don’t think they are there,” he said. “I don’t think bullying is going to end, and I can’t provide those simple answers.”

He does, however, believe most students [given support] are strong enough to overcome the negative experience and move past it.

“Bullying does reach its peak in middle school and does tend to diminish as kids get older. When we look back, we survive it and we get through it. It’s not that we triumph and all the bad guys learn a valuable lesson, but the rest of us can figure out how to diminish the harm they do,” he said. In the book, Preller makes it clear that boys aren’t the only ones who engage in bullying. A group of girls in the novel uses the Internet to harass a fellow student.

“Cyber bulling is absolutely a problem. I think with girls, that’s where you tend to see more of the cyber bullying,” he said.

Although the book covers difficult territory, Preller said he made an effort to keep the story entertaining for young readers.

“When you write a book like this that maybe has a hot topic, it gets lost that you are still trying to tell a good story. You don’t want the reader to be conscious that they are being taught a lesson. If they feel that they are, they are going to put the book away,” he said.

For the full article, click here.

For a sample chapter, click here.

And lastly, this blog is filled with background information on the book. Just click on “Bystander” under categories in the right sidebar. I think this entry was especially relevant.

Breaking the Silence: Interview at Boylit.com

I’m breaking my self-imposed gag order to alert my Nation of Readers of an interview I did with Carl DeLuca over at Boylit.com.

Click here like a crazed ferret and you’ll find it.

I think anyone interested in boys and books (together, at last!) will appreciate the effort, commitment, and care that Carl has put into his new website. You should check it out! There’s thoughtful essays, lists, interviews (so far: Jessica Lee Anderson, Laura Manivong, Kurtis Scaletta, and Stephanie Stuve-Bodeen), links, and free pizza and beer for every visitor (no, I’m lying).

Thanks, Carl!

Bring Change 2 Mind: “Words Have Power Over Us.”

I was impressed and pleased to find this full-page advertisement, featuring actress Glenn Close, that addressed the stigma of mental illness:

Here’s the body copy of the advertisement:

Glenn Close’s sister Jessie and Jessie’s son Calen have a disease. And even though their story is their own, it’s far from unusual. The fact is, one in six adults has a mental illness. The harder reality is that the ignorance that fuels the stigma associated with mental illness can often be the most painful part of managing the disease.

Glenn and her family chose to be national voices for the first campaign dedicated to fighting the stigma that accompanies mental illness. Because having a disease is difficult enough. Being blamed, or ostracized for having it, well that’s just crazy.

Readers of Bystander may suspect that I have some personal experience with schizophrenia. And it’s true: my brother John suffered from schizophrenia. I touched upon  John’s experiences in a fictionalized way in that book, and also blogged about it more directly here.

Clicking around cyberspace, I found this insightful, deeply-felt piece written by Glenn Close for O, The Oprah Magazine, titled “Glenn Close’s Aha Moment.” It begins:

As an actress, I have always loved words. I believe in their power. But certain words have power over us — until we destigmatize them and learn to speak them out loud, without fear or shame.

By the way, since I was mildly critical of J.K. Rowling last week, let’s recognize how brilliant and accurate she was to make the characters in the Harry Potter books fear the word “Voldemort.” They were afraid to say it out loud. And to that extent, he held dominion over them, for he had stolen a piece of their language. Ms. Close continues:

My aha moment hit me several years ago, when I realized that three deeply frightening words had power over me: schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar. There is mental illness in my family. And I knew that if I really wanted to help, I would have to learn to say those words fearlessly, out loud. That’s the beginning . . .

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And my aha moment is beginning to have repercussions. A group of us, along with Fountain House, are launching a campaign called Bring Change 2 Mind. In June we went to Washington and presented our idea to the major mental health organizations. With their enthusiastic blessing and support, we shot our first public service announcement— in Grand Central Station — directed by Ron Howard. Jessie and I and our children are in it. And John Mayer gave us use of his exquisite song “Say.” Bringchange2mind.org has links to all the major mental health groups. It will connect people to whatever they need: help, community, education, or a chance to join one of the organizations.

It is just the beginning, but I hope it will give people the courage to talk about mental illness, to lose their fear of the words, to conquer shame and stigma. Jessie and I felt a huge sense of relief when we decided to speak out. There is nothing to hide. Schizophrenia. Bipolar disorder. Depression. I have no fear. We are all connected, and none of us should ever feel marginalized, stigmatized, and alone. — As told to Johanna Schneller

I congratulate Ms. Close on the courage of her convictions, and the bright shining power of her insight. This is good work; I believe she’s right. We need to talk about this stuff, not hide from it, because there is a power in words — a power to do harm, and a power to make positive change.

“Change a mind about mental illness, and you can change a life.”

Here’s the PSA as directed by Ron Howard:

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“Bystander” Review

Mary Ann Gallagher writes of Bystander:

This fast-paced read is an eye-opener for children in the often-confusing world of middle school.

For the full review, click here.

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